A couple brief thoughts:

At 3 months post RALP I still had occasional leakeage and could not go more than two hours without using the bathroom. I made some limited progress and at four months post RALP I started eight weeks of pelvic floor therapy. It was covered by Medicare. I don’t have leaks anymore, I can now go up to five hours without having to use the bathroom and I’ve seen positive evidence that erections are improving.

Regarding return of sexual function I’ve re-learned that sex isn’t the cornerstone of intimacy, or the foundation either. Until nerves heal, which might take a while, it’s not just important but actually vital that we men who have gone through prostatectomy sit with, cuddle, gently and show positive non-sexual attention to our partners until the “train gets back on the tracks.” If you wait until the day when you’re good to go again, your relationship might have suffered irreparable harm in the interim.

Don’t wait until it’s too late!