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Preparing to Age in Place

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Going through the same thing. Doing ok just now. Will be 84 this month. Hoping, and praying, that when the decision time comes, that I’m able to make the right ones.
None of us really know what’s ahead. So am doing my best every day, am in a townhouse with minimal upkeep, bedroom downstairs, etc. etc.
I do find it hard to deal with all the advice I’m getting, from my children, and society in general.
We don’t really know what lays ahead. So I pray a lot.
Decided to enjoy every day, trying to stay in the moment. Do water aerobics, still take piano lessons, drive as long as I’m able to see the kids, even go on tour guided vacations. And am thankful!!
I feel blessed.

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Good for you!

You remind me a lot of a friend of mine. She's 87, lives alone, and is legally blind. Still, she is very active and makes the most of every day.

You are a role model!

Someone commented on me being a role model.
Don’t know about that, but thanks.
I do have REAL role models, and am sure grateful for them!!
One acquaintance who passed away, a lady in a wheelchair, even though I knew she had mega health issues, was the most positive person I knew. I wanted to be like her.
Another lady, with whom I do water aerobics now, is happy and positive. She is grateful to be alive!! She’s being fed intravenously. She can’t taste anything nor drink fluids. I like to eat!! That would kill me.
So if I feel sorry for myself, I keep remembering those role models.
Feeling humble…..

A physician commented to me that he had been thinking of two options: would it be better to go before one's parts started to wear out and therefore to live w/o pain and or discomfort, but to die younger, or to live longer and experience the trauma and pain of having various joints and other parts wear out and go through their replacement or repair, but to live longer?
I happen to be among those who have lived long enough to have two replaced knees, one replaced shoulder, and am facing a hip replacement and possibly a re-placement of one of those knees. Yes, I've enjoyed all that the extra years have allowed me to be a part of.