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Dealing with adult son with mental health: Parents want to share?
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The only other thing I could suggest is that you go there and see if you can get him committed. Unfortunately, it’s usually only a few days hold and he would have to agree. Maybe then you could let yourself off the hook and not feel like you didn’t try everything you could. It is really too bad about his therapist. At 69 you are having too much stress on yourself ( and understandably so) and it is so harmful for you. Praying for you both.
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I did think of that...and ironically I am a former psychiatric RN. I know first hand how that can go having done it myself for my patients in need of immediate psychiatric services and in a crisis.
I would have to call his clinic and state he is a danger to himself or others. They told me they would call the police to go to his condo. If he does not answer the door, they would break it down. Of course, he would refuse any intervention because with PPD he doesn't think anything is wrong with him. It's everyone else. Depending on his actions, most likely he would have to be handcuffed and taken out of his condo, an ambulance will be called to take him to the ER for a psychiatric evaluation. He would certainly know it was me...and this would be unforgivable by him to me especially if he is released from the ER. I am trying to speak to his psychiatrist but the clinic says I can't if he is not a danger to himself or others. I don't believe he is suicidal although no doubt he might have passive suicidal ideations...having lost his best friend of 30 years suddenly, without warning at the age of 39. Best friends since age 8.
I actually have a video appointment with his psychiatrist in November - posing as a "patient" but wanting to discuss my son. My feeling is his MD can not tell me anything about him due to HIPPA laws BUT I can report to him. When I was working many times I had family members call me to report their loved one was in a mental health crisis. I listened but did not report anything to them. Of course, there were times the crisis team had to be called (by me) to go to the home. Very, very often the family does not want to be the "bad guys"...& call the police. Now I truly get that. I am in those shoes now. But I do get you. And yes, I am very sick over this. I am trying to help myself. All I do is think "what can I do". No doubt he is lying to his psychiatrist and saying all if "fine"...which it is in his mind. I don't even know if his MD diagnosed him correctly. I believe it's depression and ADD. But that is not what is truly going on with him...yes, depression for sure but the PPD is overtaking everything. Many thanks again for your thoughts and help.