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Dear djgb…
This is so familiar to me, but I am in the early days on this road.
I am working on letting him go- accepting that he won’t come back, appreciating that we can still laugh together, even if it’s only over making silly sounds together. It’s exhausting, he’s someone else, but he’s here and his hand feels the same way when I hold it. That’s something tangible to me- part of him is here. And the rest would be too if he had any choice in the matter. It helps.
But how do you manage the isolation? Life feels like a lukewarm kind of death sometimes. More often than I’d like to admit. And the ‘get friends to help! / do things that nurture you! / get exercise!’ kind of advice feels like it is made by people who have no experience with this.
Any answer from any of us is so welcome.
Big hugs to all of us. ❤️
- Cecilia