in reply to @esav33 Hi. My sister made a decision to place her husband in "assisted living" last spring because he was falling so much, and always forgetting to use his walker. She had tried her best to keep him home, but realized that eventually "her had would be forced, " and it was. He has now been moved to the "memory care" unit. I don't know what she would have done if she and husband had not had the foresight to buy long term care insurance, even tho it is only good for 5 years. $8000 a month, and every time my brother in law needs something "extra," that means more money out of my sister's pocket. Sigh. At the very least, she was able to make a very difficult decision, just as I did when I decided to stop being a caregiver for my best friend who has dementia. I could not do it alone, even though I care about her very much and was not being paid. Best of luck!

@esav33, denial is common. Have you been able to discuss with your mom's doctor?