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I feel like start running and not look back!
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 2 days ago | Replies (124)Comment receiving replies
It’s so hard…. I think the same, we have no family only me and lately I am thinking of the few years I may have left and this is not how I planned on using it. I hate myself for being or thinking like this but what is the alternative, my husband gave me 43 years of perfect bliss is it fair when times get rough to walk away, I have to remember this and what it might be like if it was reversed? Sometimes I think I have dementia when I am so overwhelmed I cannot think. I just plod along, we just go everywhere together although I recently started having a massage and I have a treadmill, in the garage which helps I open the door and look out. No one ever blames someone for whichever path they choose and no one has the right to criticize. 😍
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I feel bad when you say "my husband gave me 43 years of perfect bliss is it fair when times get rough to walk away" - please do not view it as walking away. Try view it as giving him the best possible physical care by a staff who are not worn out, and emotional care by you provide the "icing on the cake" - sharing memories, bringing him little treats - all while caring for yourself. One thing we always did for my mother-in-law was her laundry, so that her belongings did not disappear or get damaged by the mega-laundry at the facility. Another thing was to go on the days she had her shower, and brush and condition her hair and massage lotion onto her arms and legs - little things that probably get lost in the chaos of day-to-day cares at home.