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I don't feel we can travel anymore: I want our lives back
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Oct 7 4:16pm | Replies (21)Comment receiving replies
There is some grieving -- or a lot of grieving -- to do as our loved ones age and, possibly, have increasingly conditions that make it difficult or impossible to do some of the activities we enjoyed doing together. My parents loved traveling once a year, but with the progressive deterioration of my father's health it became more and more complicated. After a bout of anger at the situation, my mother decided to make the best of it. She would travel alone to my brother's house or with one of her sisters and/or my brother to some other place. Now even that has become more complicated, because my dad can no longer take care of himself 100%. So now, their next trip, in a wee, will be to a center in the woods, not far from where they live, where they can rest, enjoy a beautiful landscape, have the help he needs, and my mother can take walks by herself or with other guests. She has been going through a grieving process (she's very sad that it is almost impossible for her now to come to my home), and she tries to make the best of the situation.
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Hi @verol65
- YOUR DAD’S PROBLEMS; I’M THERE TOO -
I’m sorry for your dad by “no longer take care of himself 100%.” Well, I’m there too. Your dad has “health… complicated”. Well, I’m there too, but add mental injury cause I’m a TBI member for last 12 years ago.
- CAN I TRAVEL BY MYSELF? -
I can’t travel by myself; I can’t drive anymore; I need meds for my brain-problems; how about doctors - I need them, but not myself; how about foods of eating - not by myself. Sure I can do: clean our clothes or take our doggies on our outside wooden walls or fixing our outside bushes & small trees (8-12 ft) or lights inside our rooms.
- PROBLEMS STARTED 12 YEARS AGO -
I had/has a bicycle accident one block from our house in 2012. I was 55-56 yo. I lost 80% of my memory, understanding, pro writing, teaching, helping, take care at my city. I had to retired even I wanted but not.
Thankfully, I’m married with my beautiful wife, Karen for the last 42 years. She works at the public schools in our city. She takes care of me if everything I can’t. My age is now 68 yo. But I seek better ways than 12 years ago. For now my kids 30+ year young are married but to different states. I have brothers & Karen has her family, too.
Well, take care for you & your family,
Greg D. @greg1956