Im in the same boat and yes it is scary. Hoping to get the surgery done. Ive had the feeding tube in for a month and do manuel feedings which I prefer. I got a good pill crusher when I was in the hospital so everything goes in the tube. While doing chemo and I feel too bloated I can cut back a bit. Will do my 2nd round of chemp in 2 days. So far so good. Best of Luck to you and your husband