Hi Kelly - I also had DCIS with nipple sparing bilateral mastectomy with direct reconstruction + second reconstruction to change implants + two fat grafting surgeries. I too found it hard to find people like ‘me’ - I’m 5’6 slim build and 44. A lot of the images scarred me. I did find my surgeons gallery helpful which you can see here - https://www.drbettykim.com/before-and-after-gallery/#0-breast-reconstruction. The reality is unless you have 3D mock up it’s impossible to know what they will look like after - they will not be like your natural breasts that’s for sure but they can do amazing things these days - I’m super interested to here if the nerves work post surgery - I’ve never met anyone yet who has had this done.
Ask about the incisions and where the scars will be - likely you will like me and have them hidden under the breast which is brilliant as you won’t even see them after a few months. Ask about implant sizes and shapes and projection (gives the natural curve). Ask about fat grafting - all of these help give a more natural look. It takes time and possibly several surgeries to get to the best outcome or you could be lucky and be done first time and just need fat grafting done later. Best of luck - I’m 12 months down the line and just had second fat grafting surgery and pretty happy with my outcome. They are more fuller and shaply in clothes then my old breasts but I have no feeling in either one. Lots to weigh up. It does help to speak to other women in similar situation but each journey is unique. Good luck.