We can loosely group our mental experiences into two major realms.
One is all our thoughts and feelings about the outer world, the "not me" world.
The other is all our thoughts and feelings about ourselves, the "me" world and how I fit (or don't fit) in the "not me" world.

It seems that this discussion concerns the "me" world, as this is where most of our difficult emotions occur.
Perhaps the most important self-management skill is remembering that all emotions pass if we let them, even the most painful.
But the "me" world is also where our many wonderful emotions occur. We can learn to wait for them and savor them.

For me, it has been necessary to learn that there is no perfect, always feel good fix to the flow of my moods. I can, however, usually observe them with a certain wry enjoyment. I can wink at myself.

Finally, there are the moments when the boundaries between the "me" and "not me" worlds temporarily open:
-Really good friends with whom we can sometimes share some of the "me" world feelings! Wow!
-Special moments with nature and art when our hearts open to the wonder of something "other" out there.
-And for some of us, non-verbal muscle-to-muscle, nerve to nerve connections we may feel with our lovers...and our pets!