You are so right. It's only been little things, but I have caught things my doctors missed or forgot. They're not perfect any more than we are. You have to interact with your doctors, not just sit passively like a child. I think men (no offense) often find it hard to deal with doctors. They need encouragement, perhaps coercion, to be more proactive. Also, you might consider going with your husband to his appointments, and by that I mean, go right in with him, don't just wait in the waiting room. I've always been a docile introvert but as a teacher I had to learn to be assertive. It can be done. Good luck and hang in there. I know this is a lot to deal with.