I am truly sorry that you are in this situation. At the clinic that treated my family member’s reoccurrence there is an expression “where you go first matters.” A number of folks who post on this site had also not received the best advice or treatment from their local oncologist the first time around. I have come to conclude that if you can manage it, go to an expert at one of a number of excellent cancer hospitals across the country. It does make a difference. If you feel that you are not being heard, or something you are told feels strange or implausible, get a second opinion. Just my humble opinion….