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Sometimes -- as in my case, an octogenarian -- one may not have friends, Despite Seriously following avenues that promise a friend-connection, for the last few years, and rather 'obsessively' over the last year. Yesterday I came to realize that the local Alzheimer's Society where I have gone twice is not going to work. But I also had a few more places that I have joined and feeling the vibes if they offer what I am looking for: a mutually rewarding social connection that allows growth intellectually: cognitively engaging pursuits. But I'd not pass up just because someone is 'not of 'right' sex, age, marital status or ability in some respect (as we All are 'disabled' from someone's perspective!) because for friendship to flourish the only thing that matters is Mutual recognition that the other provides about equal value to our lives,
Tomorrow I am attending two groups of people who belong to retired people "whose love of learning grows with age" (I'm blown away with this stance on aging!). I've already attended two of this group's on different interests and one seems promising. I have hope for the two tomorrow. Hope is all I can have to look forward to the days I have on this planet. After all, Is there an alternative to a (good) life Without friend?
(I'm sure Aristotle would agree with me; his big on it)
I hope you have better luck finding your friends.
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@sisyphus = Curious about what groups these are that caught your interest, and if they're anything I might find myself (whether online or in my locale)...[Coming from your mention: "Tomorrow I am attending two groups of people who belong to retired people "whose love of learning grows with age"].
LOVE learning!! The more variety, the better, for me!
Thank you.
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I have to add that I stated I had no close friends. I have friends. I live now in a rural area with not really any services for seniors. There are some but in other towns, I’d have to pay to join the senior centers. Also I don’t like driving at night now. Many activities I see listed are at night. You must have a car here ? I do but as I said I don’t like driving at night. I have volunteered at a nature center which is now a 20 mile drive away ( I used to be close enough to walk or bike there). Many activities ( for the volunteers are at night). I had a ‘good’ friend there for 10 years: she decided to ghost me because she preferred hanging out with other divorced women she met elsewhere ( she started bar hopping! We are both now 77). I just laugh because I don’t need those kind of friends ❤️