You are all so helpful. I calmed down and today we just reset (love that word) and he is going to sit and work a puzzle. We do have a great bidet seat. I also have wipes by the toilet.
I had a great therapy session today and my therapist helps me to realize this may be our new normal- one of many adjustments.
And Teri no I don’t believe I’m writing about this but it is what it is.
This site saved my sanity.
Thank you all.