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I feel like start running and not look back!

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Oct 26 2:12pm | Replies (123)
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@cheryl16

Thank you for your thoughts, especially the first sentence. I have never looked at it as me being ready. It's so easy to always put my husband's needs first to the point of not even having my needs on my radar.

I'm going to look for that book. I'll be thinking of you as you take this next step.
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cheryl16 | @cheryl16 | Sep 20 8:47pm

Thank you, jehjeh.
This is so difficult. I wake up some mornings feeling panicky and think I shouldn’t move him now. He tells me he loves me all the time. I know he loves our little dog. But we share meals in silence and have no real conversations the rest of the day. I know he can’t distinguish between love and need, not that it’s an easy distinction to make. I want to believe he will do better in a more stimulating environment, attended to by staff who (hopefully) aren’t burnt out the way I am.
I don’t know how I’ll be when he’s gone and I’m missing him - I know I will still miss this diminished version of him.
BTW- Do read Travels to Unimaginable Lands. It deals with these issues with insight and compassion.
And thanks for your thoughts, and always know I will try to help you in any way I can. xxx

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