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How do you deal with aging?

Aging Well | Last Active: Oct 2 11:38am | Replies (401)

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My one regret ( which is minor) is I have no real close friends. Worked with 99% men in all my jobs, women were either married, much older or did not have my interests. At those times ( working) the younger ones’ main interests were dating, going out to bars looking for guys, having kids ( they were single) etc. Just wasn’t my thing. But now I value my time wisely and I’m thankful for being mostly healthy and mobile.

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I don’t have any close friends, but having this forum is helpful.

I’ve met some wonderful friendly women @ church. We have several women’s Bible study groups- Tuesday morning, Wednesday evening & a third meeting on Monday or Thursday nite. Out of that we’ve started a monthly Bunco group. I’ve made great friends from 20’s to my age, 80. We all get along beautifully. You might not only make friends but become a child of God.

Sometimes -- as in my case, an octogenarian -- one may not have friends, Despite Seriously following avenues that promise a friend-connection, for the last few years, and rather 'obsessively' over the last year. Yesterday I came to realize that the local Alzheimer's Society where I have gone twice is not going to work. But I also had a few more places that I have joined and feeling the vibes if they offer what I am looking for: a mutually rewarding social connection that allows growth intellectually: cognitively engaging pursuits. But I'd not pass up just because someone is 'not of 'right' sex, age, marital status or ability in some respect (as we All are 'disabled' from someone's perspective!) because for friendship to flourish the only thing that matters is Mutual recognition that the other provides about equal value to our lives,

Tomorrow I am attending two groups of people who belong to retired people "whose love of learning grows with age" (I'm blown away with this stance on aging!). I've already attended two of this group's on different interests and one seems promising. I have hope for the two tomorrow. Hope is all I can have to look forward to the days I have on this planet. After all, Is there an alternative to a (good) life Without friend?
(I'm sure Aristotle would agree with me; his big on it)

I hope you have better luck finding your friends.

This is a situation for many career women. I am like you. Acquaintances but no close friends.