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I feel like start running and not look back!
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 1 day ago | Replies (124)Comment receiving replies
What do you when you are physically and emotionally exhausted? My husband is so worried about me leaving and not coming back that it's only possible to make a quick trip to the store or pharmacy. I can't do both because that takes too long. I hurry through the store and can find no peace at home because he wants me near him all the time. Hiring help didn't change anything. He's not ready for memory care but this is not sustainable.
What do others do?
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Sometimes it’s you who is ready for him to be in memory care. That’s where I feel I’m at. I can’t live like this anymore. he shadows me all the time, constantly tells me he loves me, but doesn’t know I’m his wife. He doesn’t wear his wedding ring anymore. It means nothing to him. I can’t fill his days and can’t bear to go through my own. I think I’m going to take the plunge and place him very soon. I found a good place. Just waiting to see if I can really afford it.
Just started reading a book I’m finding very instructive. Travelers to unimaginable lands by Dasha Kiper.
Stories of Dementia, TheCaregiver and The Human Brain
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I’m going through the same. I can’t go outside to take a walk or even to the bathroom when he starts looking for me. He does sleep a lot but I find myself sitting around the house all day waiting for him to tell me he is hungry. Whatever I give him, he’ll take two bites then tell me he is full and goes back to bed. My friend told me to remember the man I married and how it was this helps me to accept what is happening. But I still get mad at what than find myself apologizing.