Hi Sia H and Bud,
Not to brag but say my AMS 800 experience is so fantastic. Obviously I had a super surgeon. What surprised me is his student (resident?) did the work under his direction. She maybe had an advantage with very small and, no doubt, steady hands. The doc turned out to be a regions expert in this as well as gender affirming surgery; so he knows the territory.
I was (and technically still am) totally incontinent from my RALP 01/22. I went about 6-weeks before AMS was activated. Till recently didn't know there were different sizes of cuffs; mine must be perfect fit. Maybe my static pressure is somewhat higher than most because it takes me multiple squeezes to completely empty. But then it's done and shut! I do wear a #2 "daytime" pad to get the last drip if any. In 15-months of using it I've had only two major leakages. And both those recently. Last July I majorly leaked while asleep and have no idea why or how. I must have pinched the bulb in my sleep. And just last week on a long drive I filled the #2 pad (they do hold a lot!).
But otherwise, NO problems.
And I had a cystoscope check last month and doc saw no erosion at the cuff site.
With practice I've accomplished using a stand up urinal. I do have to open my fly and belt. Ring and pinkie on one hand holds my pants down and index and thumb aims my penis (not easy) and other hand also uses ring and pinkie to hold pants down and back so thumb and index finger work the squeeze bulb. It takes some extra time but works without completely dropping my pants.
In this case, don't 'Aim High' like they taught us in school. Hope you can laugh about all this.
Good luck to both of you and all our fellow AMS users. It does take time and practice to learn how our bodies and social lives work with the complicated thing.
Keep up your spirits and don't hesitate to pester your doctor/s. They work for YOU.