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To move near family or stay put
Aging Well | Last Active: Sep 30 8:46am | Replies (77)Comment receiving replies
SueEllen-
You have been so very brave about this, straightforward and not in denial.
You might think of this as a gift you are giving to your future self.
Right now you are very clear minded and can make decisions that you may not be able to make later, and you can be the one who makes them for yourself.
Our home environment is an extension of our mind, and with age and memory loss we become much more dependent on our environment to "think" for us, to hold us together.
You need to create an environment, a small, simple home/room which will help you function as your mind becomes less flexible.
You need to make this change while you can, and learn to live there while you can adapt and adjust.
This will involve loss for today, but it will be a gift to yourself later.
(These are just my thoughts. Don't take them if they aren't for you.
I'm still struggling to make my home as simple as possible while I can.)
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You are correct. I was thinking the same thing. You cannot wait until you get sick to make that move. It won't happen! My husband and I moved 4 months ago to be near my son and 4 granddaughters. We are in our 70s and were able to pack up and move several states away. Where we were before was because of our jobs but we're now retired.
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Am going through this move/change just now. Our daughter rebuilt part of their garage and a guest suite for us to have a separate place. How Vvery very difficult to strip down drastically. Especially as I am a painter. But with RA and Steroid muscular atrophy and loss of mobility, simplification and safety - and being near/with family- IS the gift they and we gave ourselves. So hard now, but great too- talk about gratitude!! Well said Sue Ellen 66 !!!