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To move near family or stay put

Aging Well | Last Active: Nov 24, 2024 | Replies (78)

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@sueinmn

Please don't think you must get rid of everything! My Mom made a,similar move and was able to bring her favorite dresser and chest of drawers, bed, recliner, combined desk and China curio cabinet. We also decorated with her favorite mirrors pictures and bric a brac. We downsized her wardrobe and jewelry keeping the favorites. She gave many pieces of jewelry and keepsakes to kids and grandkids.

I am doing tha downsizing at 73. What my kids and kin don't want go to our local Buy Nothing group, where people are very appreciative.

The hardest is photos- we are going through and putting our favorites on a thumb drive and on our wall picture frame where they rotate constantly. The hardest is to figure out is what to do with all the plants and decor in many gardens. These are gradually being given to my girls and other gardener friends.
It gets easier as I go, realizing someone else can continue to enjoy. My sister in law has been unable to let herself do this. When she passes I fear her impatient daughter will dump it all - even though there are some lovely things.

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I turned 75 two weeks ago, and I am also in the process of going through all of my things, getting ready to move back to Minnesota where I have a sister, 3 brothers and several good friends. Going through my stuff sometimes it almost seems like living my life in reverse. I know when I helped my Dad consolidate and clear our our family home how long the process can take, and saying goodbye to all those things. But it was also a wonderful way to relive the memories.

I have already given all my plants and plant stuff away. Today my bff is coming over and I can give her some shelves she will use to set up her sewing room. I have always been of the mindset that if I bring in something home then I must give up something. That being said, it is so darned easy to accumulate "stuff". One thing that helps is to say to myself, 'if there was a fire, what would I grab before getting out?' It helps to figure out what is most important.

I too am going thru photos and old letters. This takes the longest time. Most of the photos were taken by myself so I have hard copies, copies on CD and copies on my computer via/phone. The time consuming part is going through and remembering and then dealing with any emotions that come up, before I pass the hard copies on to my nieces, nephews, and other family members. It can feel like I am losing something, but again, I still have most on CDs. I like your idea of putting the photos on a rotating wall frame.

I will do the same process with jewelry. I think this will be a bit easier especially since I wear very little nowadays, and keep them mostly for sentimental value; although, I am surprised how possessive I am of my "jewels".

Good Luck in your downsizing process.