Hi there, I am Lisa, we just found out about a month ago from a random CT scan that my husband of 32 years has nodules in both lungs, enlarged lymph nodes on both sides, all with elevated SUV max scores. He is really healthy, hasn't smoked in 35 years, has absolutely no breathing problems, although he has always been sensitive to allergies and occasional asthma attack. We at first were stunned and terrified, and now have moved into denial while we wait to meet with pulmonologist again next week, I assume biopsies are the next step.
A bit about us, we are both math professors at the same same community college, have 2 great adult kids out on their own now, we got a new puppy and were getting ready to retire and start our "3rd act" together. Now our future is a big unknown, we are both trying not to focus on what we don't yet know, but honestly I am only keeping it together on the outside for him. Glad to be a part of this group.
Lisa, @lbucky, I responded on your other post, but want to welcome you to our group again.
Going through various stages of acceptance is perfectly normal. What ever you are both feeling is right where you need to be at the time. Try to keep talking to each other about what you're feeling. It's sometimes easy to clam up and keep it inside, but it will help if the two of you are in synch. It's ok to cry, this is stressful.
We've all faced the waiting. Waiting for appointments, additional tests, and results can be difficult. It will always take longer than you want it to but try to take a deep breath and do something to keep your mind off of things. I image that you both are very busy right now with the start of the school year.