i personally have 2 wigs that are my favorites (although i have 9 or 10 in assorted colors including a purplish and bright blue, i like to have fun with them), one is made from my son's hair who lives about 14 hours away, the other is a baseball cap wig...people who see me in that for the first time have often said they had no idea it was a wig...so you might want to consider one of those to keep up the public image...i would definitely push and ask why he thinks you're not a candidate...have you had genetic testing done? i'm prob going to be starting immunology AFTER my last chemo and i get the next CT scan...