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My dad has a mass on bladder and kidney not functioning
Bladder Cancer | Last Active: Sep 29 9:34am | Replies (269)Comment receiving replies
Hello! Sweet friends who helped me through my dads bladder cancer journey- im looking to hook up my daughter in laws father who has bladder cancer with a support group to help him work through questions and just support along his jourrney. He has had many scrapings and is at the point of bladder removal. Oct 1. His sweet daughter( my daughter in law) is looking to support and help him all she can. I gave her a book i made up for my dad i researched lots of stuff and passed it on to her- Is there a direction i can send her?
A quick update- i have moved mom in with me- she has dementia not offically diagnosed yet its very apparent. Getting worse. Think im gonna have to find a group for me too! Love to you all and and thanks for your replys in advance
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@formydad, welcome back, although I'm sorry about the circumstances that brought you back to Mayo Clinic Connect.
Please let your daughter-in-law know that there is a support group dedicated to bladder cancer here:
- Bladder Cancer support group: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/bladder-cancer/
The discussions include several very helpful discussions about bladder removal and more. I bet the book you assembled during your father's journey and all the research you did is being very helpful for her. I hope she joins the discussions if she has questions or needs support.
Additionally, there is a group dedicated to caregivers for people caring for someone living with dementia here:
- Caregivers: Dementia Support Group https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers-dementia/
You'll find plenty of support and helpful members in the group.
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About six months ago, At 82, I was diagnosed with inoperable bladder cancer, and a mass of cancer was blocking one kidney. The Mayo Clinic sent me home for other treatment. The VA authorized immunotherapy treatment at a local clinic. I terminated that treatment after 4 months because it took away all quality of life, couldn't eat, fatigued beyond words, etc. In my opinion, chemo is probably good for younger people, but maybe not for us older folks. I've not had treatments for about a month, and I'm starting to feel alive again. Maybe my time is short here on Earth, but at least enjoyable for a while.
I wish all cancer patients the best of luck.