A friend's husband just died of Parkinson's after 15 months in a nursing home .(Montpelier, VT). She doesn't regret her decision one bit; it kept her sane. She did struggle with guilt when he said he wanted to go home, but she stayed the course and was able to visit him rested and in good spirits leaving the care to the professionals. She is now in the next chapter of being a widow. Yes, she misses him; he was mostly lucid and always knew and loved her, but she knows she did the right thing by placing him in a good facility..for him and for her. These diseases don't just affect the patient. The family is affected too; specifically the spouse. Each one of us has to make a decision. I am leaning toward memory care myself. If my husband's belligerence won't allow me to help him, then I'll have to get someone who can. I will be sad for him, but I will have no guilt.