My RARP was 9 weeks ago and was non-nerve sparing. Pathology showed Gleason 9 with cribriform and IDC. I was completely incontinent after the catheter was removed, which was totally painless and in fact, it blew out once the balloon was deflated! My incontinence after 2 weeks improved at night, but continued unabated during the day. I did kegals but did not see much improvement. At 6 weeks I found an exceptional pelvic floor PT's who is helping me greatly! I wear a depends at night and basically stay dry. During the day I can now control urination 50% or so. I got tired of changing depends every 2-3 hours so I bought a penis clamp. I use it about 75% of the day and it helps a lot. I'm now hopeful I can regain control the majority of the time within the next couple of months. I'm pretty sure I will need to wear some type of absorbant pad for a long time. Regarding impotence, because my surgery was non-nerve sparing, I will never be able to get an errection without shots or implants. My mayo surgeon says we will deal with that issue but for now he says he wants to focus on the cancer which he says will reoccur. Good luck on your journey!