Just an addition to Scott's wise words. Those of us beginning this journey have a hard road ahead. My husband and I made sure our wills were updated, and we had the health and financial forms signed and notarized, and the funeral arrangements all taken care of about 4 years ago while he was able to help make those decisions and sign his hame. I'm so glad we did, as it made the transition so much easier when I had to make all the decisions with Medicaid and Veterans pension 6 months later when we had to admit him to a care center.
He died a week ago, February 8, and we will have memorial services tomorrow so this past week has been a little hectic, but could have been so much worse. We just had to visit with funeral home to make final preparations, but the financial matters were all taken care of. Still plenty to do, but time to take care of that the next few weeks.
It is hard but I know he is in a better place. He had very little quality of health in the past year, and slept most of the time.