Hi @jshdma - I agree with @IndianaScott and @hopeful33250 - I don't think God sends us those kind of tests. Your brother's situation sounds like one that you've dealt with for a very long time and it sounds as if it is deteriorating. I think Teresa's idea of contacting an attorney and a counselor is excellent. In addition to that, could you contact your local Council on Aging to see what other support services might be available - for him and for you?