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Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Mar 17 6:30pm | Replies (762)
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@IndianaScott

Hello @jshdma That sound like a very difficult situation!

Only my opinion here, but I do not think God sends this kind of thing to anyone, nor does he test anyone in these ways. Little bothered me more than when someone would say to me, as I took care of my wife "god doesn't give you more than you can handle". First, that isn't the quote and second sometimes things ARE more than a person can handle.

If your brother has been in denial for 40 years, getting him to change his situation now seems highly unlikely to me.

Does he take his medications for his schizophernia? If so do they help?

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jun 29, 2019

Hello @jshdma

While I'm certainly not a theologian nor a medical/mental health professional, after reading your recent post I tend to agree with @IndianaScott, in that I do not believe God sends this kind of thing to someone in order to "test" them.

I do believe that in this world many difficult things do happen to us as a result of illness/disease and also poor choices that we make as individuals. Sometimes those poor choices result in difficult health problems, both physically, emotionally and cognitively. It sounds as if your brother's problems are a result of schizophrenia as well as addictions. It also sounds as if you have done a lot to try and help him but I can understand you're wanting to be free from this burden.

A couple of thoughts come to mind: Have you talked with a trained counselor? Doing so might help you release yourself from any guilt you might be carrying now.

Also, have you considered contacting an attorney to see how you can extricate yourself financially and personally from the responsibility of caring for your brother?

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