I'm terribly, terribly for what you've been made to endure. If I were you, I'd be talking to a lawyer. You're right about our health care system. (I'm a retired professor and I'll say our educational system is messed up too. People who should know better and do better for some reason don't.) No one should have to go through what you and your sweet husband did. You did everything you could and more. It wasn't you who failed; it was the very people you relied on to help you. This makes me very angry. You have my most sincere condolences.