@minajo I echo what others have said, this is a difficult position to be in.

Is your daughter normally at home w you, or in a facility? Will a skilled nursing facility be able and willing to take her in? Have you been able to track one down, even now before surgery? Being nonverbal, I figure you have an idea of how she may be feeling at any given time. Is there anything she has experienced close to this new challenge?

You are in a situation most parents never get to. Do you have a support system, faith community member, or close friend you can confide in? Get their thoughts and go from there.

I wish you peace in you decision. Please let us know.
Ginger