Very wise thinking. Each journey needs to be traveled on the best responses for each situation, and you need to figure it out to some degree. I can't say that I suspended logic and left a lot of the understanding to the period of time after they were gone. I need to find the logic in time because it is necessary for my healing and forgiveness. It is very helpful to be surrounded by some comfort and support, and I didn't have much of that. And I was blamed for the problems in the first place, so that stopped my efforts in reaching out for help. I don't have anger in my heart over my past anymore, and I managed to find a way to live comfortably without losing my home. Life is good on the farm at age 83. I have some peace of mind. It has all worked out o.k. Dorisena