Hello @loisj Nice to e-meet you here and welcome to Mayo Connect! I am Scott, and while it was sad to read why you are here, it is good your are here at Connect with so many fellow caregivers! I believe you will find this group a solid one made up of folks who love to listen, share, and give tips and ideas on how to make our caregiving journeys a bit more bearable and manageable.

I was my wife's caregiver for her while she battled brain cancer, during which time she exhibited many dementia-like symptoms. I also was a secondary caregiver for my mother-in-law during her battle with dementia. I agree -- caregiving is just plain hard!

I also worked for the national Alzheimer's Association for several years fundraising for their research efforts. From my time there, as well as with my mother-in-law, I recall medical interventions often cause a noticeable decline in cognitive functioning. In my mother-in-laws case, it even happened after simple doctor's appointments. It is an odd, but consistent outcome.

I look forward to hearing more from you when you can post. How long have you been caregiving?

Strength, courage, and peace!