I have been a care giver for my wife for the last 5 years. After reading about half of your letters, I can say I have gone through almost all of your problems. Finally, it started effecting my health and my blood pressure shot up to 200. I had to get her into a nice Silverado facility in Morton Grove Illinois. She seems happy there, but, I keep trying to find a way to help her. I used to have a very stressful job about 60 years ago. I contracted severe migraine headaches. My wife (at that time a top executive social worker) found a cure for migraines in a book by a doctor. It used a simple biofeedback exercise to warm the tips of the fingers. You simply concentrate on your finger tips, say a trigger word (any word will do) a few times and after a few seconds you feel tingling in your tips. A few seconds later you can feel your heart beat in your finger tips. It all takes a little over a minute. You did it two or three times a day. It takes about two weeks of practice to master the exercise. IT ACTUALLY CURED MY MIGRAINE'S . I have been doing these exercises for 60 years and no migraines. The medical reason it works is as follows: we all have an automatic fight or flight protective system in our bodies. During a dangerous situation the body automatically shifts blood away from normal to the hands and feet to fight or run away from danger. After the danger is over the blood rushes back to the brain and elsewhere in the body. This causes a migraine in SOME people. The exercises sort of smooth out the blood rush, stopping the migraine. I thought that since Dementia is caused by plaques and other material that cloud and plug up the synapses in the brain. I thought perhaps these exercises could help clear the brain. I have contacted all the major foundations and research people at migraine headache clinics to look up the names of people who have used the biofeedback exercises for years. Follow up to see if those people contracted dementia in their senior years. IF THEY DID NOT HAVE DEMENTIA, perhaps there could be a connection, and a possible preventative or cure. Unfortunately none of these agencies have the incentive to check this out. They would rather find a pill they can sell, than find a cure that could dissolve their trillion dollar industry. and their high paying jobs. We are actually getting ready to start an experimental program at my wife's nursing home. I hope it works. You should try the finger warming yourselves. what have you got to lose ? No one else has come up with a cure.