I try to heal some of the sadness by joining kids in play. Jumping in leaf piles, swinging on swings etc.I was melancholic more than depressed so I went on antidepressant and it really helped. Besides my father my brother too is narcissists and still alive so I limit my contact and leave out anything to do with feelings. I needed to become brutally honest with myself. If I feel attracted to someone I step back and wait until I figure out why. You can go on Quora for a month free trial and learn more about people recovering from a narcissists relationship. Empathy is genetic some people are born without it. I'm careful not to be too nice to people.Any one can act sweet, ask him to do something he doesn't want to do to help you. Develop your own hobbies separate from him. I like to hike and I bought a shirt that says , It's not the destination, it's the journey.Find your own brand of spirituality. Education about psychology helped me. Stay with therapy. Sometimes after I feel it's not doing any good I'll then have a major breakthrough. Eat well, get some exercise, go out in nature and give up sugar. It's the journey