I know multiple opinions is advised. The problem is, when each has a different opinion, who do you listen to?
I get several different recommendations here from people who have had multiple second and third opinions based on their individual diagnosis. And at the end of the day, getting additional opinions from multiple specialists may really be the best way to determine best course of action for my individual diagnosis. But my Oncologist is my age, seems sincerely invested with me and my care/outcome. I trust that he knows more than me and is "doing what he would do" if in the same situation. I did not get that sense with the surgeon that would have done my RARP. There's always the possibility that my oncologist is advising me more for his own personal financial gain than what might be best. But at this point, any further research/second opinions would further delay treatment and may have a more negative impact than choice of treatment. I could be wrong though.
I will have one more discussion with my oncologist based on the recent PET/decipher results before I move forward with my treatment which/along with hormone treatment, is supposed to start as soon as next week. One thing I DIDN'T ask him because I was just processing all the new information. Would surgery or a different course of treatment make more sense based on the PET/decipher results?
Again, I trust that if that WE'RE the case, he would have offered that up when we talked.