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Courage to all of us caring for dementia patients. I try to look at the good things and take each day as it comes. I am fairly new at this since my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease with vascular dementia in late July, although I had noticed things for the past few years. One of the most irritating problems is his jealousy. He gets really upset when the neighbor (a man or his son) brings the garbage can in from the road or bring s the daily newspaper from the dropbox to the front door or any man shows any attention to me. Then he insinuates that they are trying to "come on" to me. I feel badly about this as I can not thank them for their help when they are just being neighborly.

My husband has always noticed the "ladies" and been a big hugger. I have laughingly gone along with his comments through the years since it has all been in fun, and I would reply "He can look but not touch." We have been married 62 years this month and that is just the way he is. But now he insinuates that I would have an affair if given the opportunity. I know it is the disease, but it hurts to have him make these comments to me.

We're looking forward to Christmas with our family and a Merry Christmas to everyone. I enjoy reading these messages.

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Thanks for that, that is eye-opening. My husbands father (whom I never met) was like that to my husbands mother in the 1950's to an abusive point. He would lock the poor woman inside for fear she was having an affair. At first I did not realize my husbands father was a victim of Alzheimers. But now that hubby has it, it all makes sense.