Hey kmkm,

Like you I am caring for my Mom, 94, and other than her mind she is in good health, though at 94 she doesn't walk well and not at all with out help. First thing I would suggest to you is have a long hard discussion with your family members about helping you with caring for your Mom. I know you said they "give you a break once in a while", but if other people are in the house, I think it should be a shared responsibility. It's just me and Mom so I don't have any family help. You might look into a senior center or elder care program in your area, we have WACOG, (Western Arizona Council of Governments) they are a great help with Mom. They pay for some hours for her to attend an Adult day care and arrange for transportation for her to go to the day care. Day Care is a great way for you to get some relief and "me" time. Where we live the Catholic Community Service runs the adult day care. My Mom can't do the things she once enjoyed, but she has found other things to spend time doing, odd things. She will entertain herself with folding towels, or napkins, (I went to the $ store and bought several cloth napkins for her). She will spend hours looking at greeting cards and the envelopes they came in, she likes to look at the paper too. TV is a pastime for her, she likes the shows that show a lot of nature, outdoors, like national parks. I moved her chair so she can look out the window and see motor and foot traffic. Until recently she enjoyed batting back and forth balloons, and children's jigsaw puzzles, and coloring books . She likes certain stuffed animals, you might try a baby doll. I made a "work board" for her that sits on her chair arms, she can place her "work" things there.
Hope I have given you at least an idea that will work for your Mom....Good LUCK!!