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Introductions: Are you caring for someone with dementia?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Mar 17 6:30pm | Replies (762)Comment receiving replies
My husband is in middle stages now, and in retrospect I think he has had it for some time. He never communicated with me well, so it was hard for me to detect, and I guess I didn't want to believe it. His mother had it but she was close to 90 years old and passed at 93 in 2002. I think the real clue was/is that his dad, who was quite a bit older than his mom, had it too, way, way back, in the 50's and I think his dad got it early but it went undiagnosed, he was just "mean" and "crazy". His dad passed at 69 I think in about 1963 or so. My husband is 77 now. I am quite a bit younger. It is very hard. He is in denial. I get very frustrated.
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Welcome @pearlandpeacock, you will find this is a great source to help you deal with frustration. Has your husband had a thorough physical from his doctor, neurologist, psychologist, etc? We discovered that much of the frustration, anger, and paranoia my husband was showing, was helped with Zoloft. It is a very low dose, but has made it much easier to help him.
He is 86 and had been experiencing falling episodes for a couple years. Of course, he wouldn't go to a Dr. at the time and when I finally insisted something was wrong, he had a MRI which showed he had several small strokes, and also symptoms of possible Alzheimer's Disease. He also had a family history of Alzheimer's Disease. His grandmother, his mother and his aunt all lived many years with it before they became so incapacitated that they needed Nursing home care. The Veteran's Administration Clinics have been very helpful with Social Workers to guide me along. They have provided equipment since he is now using a wheelchair and in home respite care since he can't be left alone. All this since April, so it has been a rough summer. But family and friends have all been helpful.