@flow65 - It can be isolating to have all this going on. It sounds like your husband is on board with you, in taking on things he can handle for both of you. I hope that provides some solace.

But individually the concerns mount up.

Depending on the particular situation, I've found two general approaches work for me, though they're only temporary: either
1 - start moving (as in doing things, anything, to address anything, small or not-so-small...and when I can get myself "moving", it creates a momentum that can be 'distracting', if not calming; or,
2 - I lie down and snuggle in bed with many pillows, my heating pad, and find I can fall asleep pretty easily most times.
(Oh! a 3rd: come here onto MCC and read others' contributions, and post something if I feel I have something to add, support or encourage fellow posters with :-).

The first two are very different, almost opposite approaches, and many times the 1st one is the hardest, as I've felt sort of "stuck" for a few years now, and any kind of regular momentum is lacking!!!

And I am going to 2 therapists now, trying to see if one or the other can provide the kind of "breakthrough" insight/s I feel I need to get beyond my internal struggles. Therapy is nothing new for me, but gaining tools or deep insights from it has been elusive.

Well, I hope maybe some of my run-on above might spark an idea or two. We're all so minutely different in our experiences and yet can share so much that blunts the blows...

Wishing you consolation, something to comfort you on this messy journey of life. Hugs.