There is no ‘ultimatum’ and if I gave that impression it is
totally incorrect If I say I can’t stand the heat I just put on the A/C and that’s it. I never worked anyplace that had AC either so it never came up, if I was hot I brought a fan to work. My employers did not supply any.
I did not get married until I was 45 and was and still am extremely independent. I buy whatever car I want by myself ( I used to change the oil & antifreeze and winter tires by myself) I don’t need permission from my husband to do most things. I don’t know anyone who is as independent as I was then or now.