Ouch!

It's usually a bad idea to casually speculate that someone is "on the spectrum" — Autism is a complex diagnosis that needs a lot of time and a qualified psychologist or psychiatrist — but I'm going to make an exception just this once and speculate that your actuary might have been tending in that direction.

I've noticed personally that careers that involve lots of work with numbers, computer code, machines etc tend to attract people who find it challenging understanding and reacting to the emotions of others.