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Please share how the evaluation is given. I will be facing this decision soon enough. Patience isn't one of my virtues, and I often feel lacking in this caretaker role. We've moved to a lovely one level home near one of our daughters, so I know his environment is a pleasant one. My concern is his lack of daily activity or stimulation, but anything I offer is turned down. Keep in mind, he no longer recognizes me as his wife; and I'm the only one here to push back. He was never a social person; always preferred to be working on projects rather than interacting with people. He is unable to do projects now. He lives in a state of confusion and befuddlement. So sad when I think that he designed airports, libraries, and embassies and now a kids' puzzle is too frustrating. Guilt is debilitating and I try to avoid it, but it pops up way too often.
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Three of them came. One asked me most of the questions about him. Another gave him a short verbal cognitive exam. I have decided to move forward with placing him in Memory care. The hardest part has been making the decision. Now that I have made it, it feels right. He's going this coming Wednesday! He will be safe and taken care of by people who are trained to give this kind of care. There is music playing all the time, and many activities. Most importantly there will be a routine, which will put him at ease. I can see him anytime, and I can take him on outings anytime I want. They suggest I wait 2 weeks though, in order for him to establish a routine.
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@billiekip You mentioned your husband’s lack of activity and stimulation. Are there any senior centers or libraries in your town? Our town has many programs for seniors, including day trips and talks on current topics. It’s well worth looking into.