I hear you. Apologies if I've told you this already, but I was diagnosed with stage 4 oligometastatic at almost the same age (56). I told them to give me everything they've got, and my radiation oncologist promised to "throw the kitchen sink" at it.

With new prostate-cancer treatments coming out so fast now, even just an extra year could give us a chance of a new treatment that gets us to old age. So sure, my bladder and rectum are a little scorched from a high curative dose of radiation, I have back and shoulder pain from the debulking surgery and radiation there, and ADT and ARSI have given me the usual male-menopause side effects (I went from being a bear to looking like I shave my legs and chest, I start dripping sweat at the most awkward times in public, and I probably should be wearing a training bra 🙂). But I'm HERE, dammit, and every new day is wonderful.