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I feel like start running and not look back!
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 1 day ago | Replies (124)Comment receiving replies
I often think the same thing what if my husband who is 85 lives for another 10 years I would then be 86. I hate, hate myself for even thinking of this. How could I. My family is in the UK and I doubt that it would be possible to go and visit now because of the mood swings I doubt anyone would understand and I want them to remember the man he was. I think of the future without him and being able to go to visit and again hate myself for this it’s as if I am planning my future without him, which I am.
Now I am crying.
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@jeanadair123 I share your feelings about thinking about the future and feel guilt for it. I know there will come a time when my hubby must be cared for someplace other than home. And the day will come when he's gone from this life. I also feel like I'm running out of time to live my life. At this point I can't leave the house for more than 30 minutes.
I think it's natural for our thoughts to go to a time down the road when those changes occur. In fact, this is my way of coping. "It won't always be like this"
Hang in there. jeh
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Personally I don’t think anybody should be expected to sacrifice his/her own health by being the sole 24/7 caregiver of a person who most of the time is not even aware of where he/she is or doesn’t even recognize the caregiver. I know that if my husband lives long enough to get to that stage of the disease I will do my best to find a way to put him in an institution. Just think, who will take care of YOU when he finally dies and you are left in worse health because of all the years of continued physical and emotional stress?