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I have given the doctor a heads up and the plan is to discuss memory care at our next visit in two weeks. I have been researching some in home respite care. Has anyone had any experience with Visiting Angels or Family services or Elder Network? I am not worried about the cost, but not sure how he would react to having a stranger come to our home. At the same time, I just want to be able to be free to do things around my house without being called to sit by him - he is becoming very insecure. He is constantly asking him if I love him - I am very worried about his reaction if I take him to memory care. How can I do that without him thinking I am abandoning him? Every day his dementia seems a bit worse and he is worried every day about not taking care of things from his business life. Paying his employees and getting things done for his customers or paying the invoices. I really think his worries are making him decline faster. Just wish someone would tell me what to do and take it out of my hands. Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Ohmygosh! I could have written your previous post. We are using Visiting Angel's with limited success. We framed it as help around the house that he has been encouraging me to get. So now he thinks of them as housekeepers. I stress the things they can do for him as well. He seems receptive at the time but when they are here he just wants them to dust or vacuum.
In 2 months we have had only 3 visits because he's had bad days and doesn't want anyone else in our home.
I've been very pleased with the caregivers we've met. My husband, like yours, needs me next to him at all times. I'll tell him I'm going to the bathroom and he's calling out to me before I can get there. Forget leaving the house though this was my initial reason for getting help.
I also get "do you still love me?" Daily. Or accusations of having a boyfriend.
Does anyone else deal with this? How do you respond? I'm reassuring at first but if it goes on for hours, or days, I get angry and try to avoid talking to him. I worry I'll lose my temper and say things I'll regret. I don't want to hurt his feelings. I know he believes this when he says it and his heart is breaking. 😞