Dear Mariana, I also deal with the range of emotions this monster forces on us. I have been depressed, and I have been bitter. And I know that more of the same is in my future. What I refuse to do is to stay in either of those states because doing so would rob me of my allotment of happiness in this life. Notice I did not say his happiness.
In small ways, I carve out a bit of sanity. Yesterday's wet bed, which required a complete strip job, brought a compliment from the gal who brings our Meals on Wheels. She said our house smelled lovely from the detergent I use. It made me smile because I feel I am in a fight against having our house smell like a kitty litter box. If I have any secret weapons, it is organization, patience, and humor. There have been plenty crappy moments in my life to hone my skills in all three. I wish you all the best, my warrior friend. GloRo