I hope it works out for your father. It’s difficult to know just the right place for placement. If your brother is monitoring his progress, he’ll know if the move was wise.

With my cousin, she wasn’t really into socializing with other residents, though she was prior to dementia. Direct and individual attention from staff was very important though. She couldn’t really report her issues, so having attentive, one on one care mattered a lot. She was in a small AL facility within a smaller Memory Care unit of about 15 residents. She received excellent care.

I hope you can discuss the situation with your brother.

My 67 yo niece has traumatic dementia, and needless to say was many years younger than others in her first Memory Care location, which was very disturbing to her. They were also a "medicate for everything" facility, so she was on far too much medication, and they could not or would not accommodate her lifelong need to snack throughout the day (and she is thin as a model.) Her kids found a small (3 resident) family-run Memory Care residence where she is flourishing - healthy food and cookies are available 24/7, she is off most meds, they have a fenced yard where she can walk as much as she wants, since they are with her 24/7 they know every sign of an oncoming "meltdown" and can work to avoid it. My daughters who are nurses (one with 10 yrs MC experience) will be visiting her this week - we'll see what they have to say.

So don't automatically reject a smaller place - as your Dad's dementia advances, it may be just perfect for him.