It’s often very hard for our loved ones when dealing with us cancer patients.

Much of what you said resonated with me. It was so important to me too that people didn’t treat me differently. I choose not to tell certain family members because I didn’t want to deal with their emotions and worries as well as my own - my own were enough!

I also didn’t want my medical team keeping me closely updated with all my test results. Constructive denial I called it. Having chosen them carefully and then selected my first line treatment between us (Folfiri and Avastin) I only wanted them to tell me if things started looking like we needed to look at 2nd line. A couple of times during the 6 months my team told me they were watching closely as we might be running into trouble but then things would get back on track and it was back to business as normal.

These things, plus my faith He was with me whatever happened, stopped me stressing and instead I spent my energy focussed on what WAS in my control such as diet, exercise, sleep, mindfulness etc. Perhaps your husband is doing something similar.

I’m sure your husband has his reasons but can’t explain them fully, as I can’t! I hope this helps so you might at least be able to chat with him and try to understand why he doesn’t want to share 🙏🌹