It is difficult to say if my husband is not hearing or not understanding what he hears. Recently, I had taken my husband to a day care situation. I was asking him to sit in a chair at a table with other people. I pointed and asked repeatedly. Finally one of the caretakers working there came over and said "This is what I do." She said " sit in the chair" and sat in it herself. Then she got up and asked him to do it. He sat immediately. I realized that his receptive language is a lot worse than I knew. When he doesn't do what I ask or says no, I just demonstrate for him and he always complies.