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Say something? Say nothing? looking for advice.

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Aug 11 12:07pm | Replies (37)

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@swisschrishill7

Hi. Thanks for sharing that. I am wondering about how he responded to your comment. I am struggling with the same issue. My husband has not been diagnosed with dementia at this time. He is exhibiting several of the symptoms, but, when I mention these to him, he yells and/or denies having done these things. The few times I used the word, "Alzheimer's", he exploded and even once told me if I ever mentioned it again, he'd divorce me. He has some genetic markers which put him at greater risk of having alzheimers. He makes up words for things when he can't remember the correct words, repeats himself a lot, forgets stuff that once was important for him to remember, remembers a part of every sentence I say only or not at all. He is also seriously deaf, which I know can be a contributable condition. Like most of us older fogies, he has normal signs of aging. So, this is all very difficult. If he is not ready to hear it, you may not want to say it until he is. But, if you feel you need to speak your mind for your own sanity, then do it. My husband, at one point, said, if I have alzheimers, I don't want to hear it. But, in this day & age, there are new tests and treatments out there, that are being seriously studied. So, it may be another reason to tell him what you are noticing, so he can get some new type of test or treatment. Difficult! Good luck with this one!

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@swisschrishill7, that's a tough position to be in. Does your husband get regular annual checkups with his primary care physician? Might his symptoms be noticeable to others or is he able to mask them during shot periods of time for other people? Do other family members notice the changes?